"We meet each other and we are mysteries. We see what we want to see. We idealize each other with our own fantasies. When we meet, at first we are blank slates, we have no knowledge of each other. We're virgins in each other's eyes. We're perfect. Perfect because you choose the colors you desire and paint the picture you want to see"- an amazing thinkerToday I sat back and thought about the process in which we fall in love, mainly focusing on the beginning stages. As I let D'Angelo tell me all about his dreaming eyes leading him into a fool's paradise. I started to think of how many times my own imagination tricked me into a romantic illusion. I started thinking about my current interest, I then dissected what I like most and least about him. When I finished, the first thing I discovered was how intense my imagination was. And how much my desire for this person was mainly manifested inside my own personal ideological fairy tale.
Because I know so little about this person, there's plenty of room for me to fill in my own blanks, but how healthy could this possibly be? Me painting him as the picture perfect man, he'll surely disappoint me. There will surely be a moment of clarity after I'm years deep in the relationship where I ask the ever so common "what did I ever see in this man?" and honestly not know the answer.
Until then though, I'll fall asleep on cloud 9 and let him be the cherry in my chocolate covered dream:)
So when It comes to relationships, are you an optimistic dreamer. Or do you let a person reveal themselves before making any assumptions?
Do you romanticize relationships?
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