...I'm just sayin'

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"Things Have Been So Crazy And Hectic....I Should've Gotten Back By Now"

So as I've previously stated, I've decided to do more relationship based posts. I have tons of ideas and thought that are begging to be freed.

I'm not married, so I don't claim to be an expert, but I've held plenty of interesting conversations with men and women alike, so I promise my views wont be one sided.


I think I have a few good ideas and theories that you've probably heard 1000 times, but obviously this blog is from my point of view....This should be fun!!!

What would you do?

If you caught your daughter and a boy in your house alone?

Love Is Blind

My fav song of the moment....


Trey Songs "Blind"

Have you ever been in a relationship where you're so deep in love you start to act different? Like everything you do or say basically revolves around this person? I'm talking about a relationship so unhealthy and chaotic that everyone around you damn near wants to stage an intervention? A dangerous love affair you know you should prolly get out as fast as you can, but the love is like a drug and you'd sooner die than let it go? Well, that's what my song of the week makes me think about. A crazy, diabolical relationship that is so blind, you can't see anything but the fantasy image you brain has creatively designed.

Shalon and Sharda Take Memphis-Day 3 "WHITE NOISE"

Shalon and Sharda Take Memphis-Day 2 "Twice As Mean!!!"

and then there were two.....

Shalon and Sharda Take Memphis-Day 2 "READY.SET.EAT!!!"

Because we had such an eventful evening the night before we didn't have enough energy left to hit the town so we vowed to make the best out of our Friday.

This is what we woke up to...

yummmm:)

After getting dressed we decided to go shopping...AGAIN! After we finished shopping we decided to stop a Neely's for some of their famous BBQ

Shalon and Sharda Take Memphis-Day 1 "THE SHOES BEFORE THE STORM"

Bored with the Springfield scene, my girl Sharda and I, decided to take a road trip to Memphis, TN to see what kind of trouble we could cause. 1st stop...

St. Louis Galleria of course!!!! What's a trip without a little shopping?

Five hours later.... I found that the words "little" and "shopping" don't really go together, especially when I'm involved.

Anyway, we finally left the mall and hit the highway around 6pm. So we're riding, talking about everything... men, fashion, hair and of course....the birds and the bees. You know, the usual girl talk.

Glancing at the clock, we noticed that we (well mostly me) had done a whole 2hrs of talking, so we were like "Yayyy, only 2hrs awayyyy"

AND THAT'S WHEN IT HIT US

Now when I say HIT, I'm not figuratively speaking like, "It hit us that maybe we should have left the mall 3hrs earlier" or even "It hit us that there was no real gas station or rest area for the next 15 miles".

Yall I'm taking about it literally hit us!

On minute everything was cool, then the next minute, day magically turned into night, and this crazy ass thunderstorm came out of nowhere and Mayweathered our asses!!!!!

Needless to say, I couldn't see a thing. So I pulled over to the side of the road behind like 30 other cars. After sitting there for a few moments I started thinking, if I couldn't see the cars in front of me, the cars speeding down the highway behind me prolly couldn't see me either. So I did what any smart 25yr old black girl would do, I pulled back into the rain and headed towards the closest exit.

So as soon as we turned on the exit everything got scary movie dark. I mean there were no street lights in sight!!. We were so scared. But the storm was so bad that we knew we had to park somewhere until the storm died down.

That's when we saw what looked like a hillbilly quickie mart and decided to wait in the parking lot for a while. Well after 2 bolts of too-close-for-comfort lightening hit right next to us, we decided it may be a little safer inside.

We walked in and were greeted by two hefty, hillbilly white men and one little hillbilly boy. They were very courteous seeing as though our barging in was prolly as big of a surprise to them, as it was to us.

So Miss Sharda suddenly decides that she has to use the restroom. While she's in there handling her biz, I'm left alone to uncomfortably chat it up with the men like ,"how's it going fellas?...Oh yea?...That's nice!". Then all of a sudden a big bolt of lightning hit, and all the lights went out!

Of course that cut our convo short because all i could say was..
"Aaaaaahhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh!!!!!!"

I know this must have scared the piss outa poor little Sharda because I could hear her on the toilet singing the same high pitched tune like,
"Oh my Gooooooooooooooooooooooood!"

Thank God the lights came back on but that didn't stop our hearts from racing and our hands from shaking.

Well from that point on, the rest of our trip was smooth sailing, and before we knew it, viola...

The Memphis Skyline!!!!


And that's the way we kicked the weekend off.

He Is....

Always loving.
Always very supportive.
Always an ear to my endless rants.
Always thinking of ways to make me happy.
Always there for me when I really need him, or even when I don't.

That's why he'll always be my L

Thanks for showing me there are still some good ones left.


FYI I miss u:)

"There's Nothing Not To Love About Me"

I Effin LOVE!!!!!!

Women try so hard to be "PERFECT", desperately hoping to earn a man's attention, admiration, respect, and above all else...LOVE.

Ladies how many times have we thought to ourselves..."I'm pretty, smart, witty, kind, supportive, strong, gentle, sexy, feminine. I cook, clean, and make him scream. So why? Why doesn't he love me? Why, why, why??!!

Well I'm going to tell you why. It's actually quite simple...He just doesn't!!!!

If there is no reciprocity the relationship, it may not be what God has in his sights for you. Don't be afraid to stiletto-walk away from bad situations, taking away all lessons learned and every piece of jewelry HE bought. Make sure to leave behind the worries, doubts, insecurities, and resentment. Oh, but don't forget to throw your self-esteem in that duffel on your way out...you might need it in your next relationship.

Hair Journey

So about 2yrs ago I decided I was going to start taking care of my hair. It was damaged, brittle and downright depressing.
I started stretching my relaxers. Once I saw my texture, I fell in love and wanted to go natural. I didn't want to do a big chop, so i just got a short cut after transitioning for a few months.
I liked it short and wore it like this for a while. Then around July/August I decided to grow my hair out.
8 months lateress
A texture shot
A Comparison

Unhealthy Relaxed Hair
Healthy Natural Hair


My hair journey is not only for myself, its for every woman searching for strong, healthy hair.

One of my best friends once said, "One thing I never understood about God is why every other race has nice, long pretty hair, and black women don't?" That question messed me up in more ways than one. So this journey is for that friend, because with God all is possible and I thank him for the hair I have, and the hair he is still blessing me with.


Doing the same thing over and over expecting a different result is insanity, so the relaxer had to go!